Love After 50 - Overview

Love After 50 - A Woman's Guide to Starting Over

Lyricists say that there is someone special for eveyone - a "soulmate." The dream of every single woman is to find that special friend, companion, lover, and lifetime partner who we define as our soulmate, the one that we are destined to meet. But we seem to illusively miss as two ships passing silently in the early morning mist. Dating, which seemed so natural when we were young, seems to become increasingly complex as we grow older. A variety of issues enter the equation as to how and where to meet a new love; how to know if he is the one. Issues of safety, family, finances cloud the desire to meet this new love.

"Love after 50 - A Woman's Guide to Starting Over" explores this thing we call the mating game, what went wrong with our high school dreams, the need to have someone in our lives, the dating myths, where to look for someone new, the proactive approach of personal ads, where and how to place ads, how to respond to ads, the role the Internet can play, how to use it to your advantage, avoiding players and how to beat the odds in finding someone new.

Chapter Topics

I "Fifty" In the first chapter the author explores the experience of turning fifty and beyond, and the challenges and opportunities for women seeking a new love in their lives

II "Love" What is this concept we call love. Why is it so difficult to attain ? Why are we so willing to give it up in search of a more fulfilling mate? Why do we have such a difficult time communicating our needs and desires to our mate or prospective mate? Is love possible at any age?

III "What Happened to Our Vision of Love" Relationships fade, the pain of divorce questions the value of the relationship, unfortunately mates don't live forever but can life go on; these are but a few of the questions that temper the frustration and desires of millions of women who would like to have someone new in their lives but don't know how to go about it. The author bases his comments on interviews with 300 women who have never been married, divorcees, and women who have lost their mate due to illness or accident.

IV "Why do I need someone new" Holding hands as you walk along the beach at the end of a beautiful day. Having someone to hold when the day falls apart. Being able to share your joy when everything goes right. Having someone there in illness and health. And, most of all having that sexual partner that offers mutual fulfillment's as to why we are here on earth.

V "What do you want in a new relationship" Chapter V is a critical look at what we call a fulfilling relationship and the desires of women seeking a new love in their life. Chemistry is important but there is life before and after sex and what should that include.

VI "Dating Myths" Dating after fifty can be both scary and fulfilling. What are all the myths that tend to force women into inaction? Are they really myths or merely convenient excuses?

VII "21st Century Men" What is the profile of the 21st Century man and what is he looking for in someone new in his life?

VIII "Where to Look" Even for the woman who is decided to put her toe into the dating waters, it can often be like a roaring tide. Where do you look? How do you go about being in a place where you could meet someone new? How do you handle this often-frightening opportunity?

IX "Proactive Approach" Many times single men appear to be everywhere and nowhere. How can one take a more proactive approach to meeting those men who have the same interest as you - meeting someone new for a possible long-term relationship? Chapter IX discusses the often-disparaged personal ad and how it can be effectively used to find someone new. The author discusses the pros and cons of personal ad use.

X "Availability of Personal Ads" Chapter X discusses the array of personal ad opportunities that exist around the country in newspapers, weekly shoppers, and city and state magazines. It provides examples of city and state magazines around the country. It also explores the variety of dating and matchmaking services on the Internet and how these services can be used.

XI" Internet Ads" Internet personal ads are offering a new dimension to finding someone new in the 21st Century.

XII "Major Advantage of Internet Services" Screening profiles added to new Internet dating sites allow participants to learn more about a prospective mate than might have been possible after years of dating.

XIII " Internet Services" There are literally dozens of Internet matchmaking services available in the United States and for many countries around the world. There are services for heterosexual couples and those seeking alternative lifestyles. There are sites for Christians, Jews, and Muslims. There are sites for the disabled. There are international sites, national sites, regional sites and local sites. This chapter discusses a variety of sites, what they charge, and what each offers the prospective client.

XIV "Should I place an Ad or Just Answer them" There are two approaches to participating in personal ads - placing your own ad, or answering ads placed by men interested in meeting someone like you. The author discusses the advantages of both placing and responding to personal ads.

XV "How do I write a Personal Ad" Once the decision has been made to participate in personal ads, the question comes as to how to write an effective ad. In this chapter we look at both publication and Internet personal ads and what should be included and left out. The author walks the reader through several and advises as to how the reader can obtain many examples to tailor their own ad.

XVI "Responding to a Personal Ad and Lingering Concerns" Writing and placing a personal ad are only the first step in finding someone new in your life. When the responses come in or if you decide to respond to someone else's ad, the question is how do you handle a response or an ad contact. This chapter provides direction on personal ad response.

XVII "Dating/Matchmaking Services" For those people who are reluctant, or do not have the time, to spend months looking for someone through the traditional sources, there are alternatives such as dating services, a blend of dating and matchmaking service, and lastly there is a service tailored on old world marriage brokering - the matchmaker.

XVIII "Beware the Player" Most men seeking someone new in their lives are as you interested in a long-term relationship. There are those referred to as "players" who are merely interested in the short-term benefits of a relationship and then move on. We discuss the concept of "players" and what to watch out for.

XVIX "Possible Protection" Your best protection in getting into an undesirable relationship is your own intuition. However there are steps that you can take to make sure your new love is who he say's he is. We explore several of these in this chapter.

XX " Why Relationships Fail and Happiness" At this stage of your life you have been in relationships that failed for one reason or another. In this chapter we discuss some of the reasons. We also look at the concept of happiness and whether having someone new in your life will bring you the happiness you are seeking.

XXI "What Are Your Prospects" If you do everything we are suggesting what are your prospects of finding the love of your dreams. In Chapter XXI we explore your chances of being successful and steps that you can take to improve your odds.

For more information or relationship questions, contact the author at Marion@newloveafter50.com


	Love After 50 - A Woman's Guide to Starting Over Lyricists say that there is someone special for eveyone - a "soulmate." The dream of every single woman is to find that special friend, companion, lover, and lifetime partner who we define as our soulmate, the one that we are destined to meet. But we seem to illusively miss as two ships passing silently in the early morning mist. Dating, which seemed so natural when we were young, seems to become increasingly complex as we grow older. A variety of issues enter the equation as to how and where to meet a new love; how to know if he is the one. Issues of safety, family, finances cloud the desire to meet this new love. "Love after 50 - A Woman's Guide to Starting Over" explores this thing we call the mating game, what went wrong with our high school dreams, the need to have someone in our lives, the dating myths, where to look for someone new, the proactive approach of personal ads, where and how to place ads, how to respond to ads, the role the Internet can play, how to use it to your advantage, avoiding players and how to beat the odds in finding someone new. Chapter Topics I "Fifty" In the first chapter the author explores the experience of turning fifty and beyond, and the challenges and opportunities for women seeking a new love in their lives II "Love" What is this concept we call love. Why is it so difficult to attain ? Why are we so willing to give it up in search of a more fulfilling mate? Why do we have such a difficult time communicating our needs and desires to our mate or prospective mate? Is love possible at any age? III "What Happened to Our Vision of Love" Relationships fade, the pain of divorce questions the value of the relationship, unfortunately mates don't live forever but can life go on; these are but a few of the questions that temper the frustration and desires of millions of women who would like to have someone new in their lives but don't know how to go about it. The author bases his comments on interviews with 300 women who have never been married, divorcees, and women who have lost their mate due to illness or accident. IV "Why do I need someone new" Holding hands as you walk along the beach at the end of a beautiful day. Having someone to hold when the day falls apart. Being able to share your joy when everything goes right. Having someone there in illness and health. And, most of all having that sexual partner that offers mutual fulfillment's as to why we are here on earth. V "What do you want in a new relationship" Chapter V is a critical look at what we call a fulfilling relationship and the desires of women seeking a new love in their life. Chemistry is important but there is life before and after sex and what should that include. VI "Dating Myths" Dating after fifty can be both scary and fulfilling. What are all the myths that tend to force women into inaction? Are they really myths or merely convenient excuses? VII "21st Century Men" What is the profile of the 21st Century man and what is he looking for in someone new in his life? VIII "Where to Look" Even for the woman who is decided to put her toe into the dating waters, it can often be like a roaring tide. Where do you look? How do you go about being in a place where you could meet someone new? How do you handle this often-frightening opportunity? IX "Proactive Approach" Many times single men appear to be everywhere and nowhere. How can one take a more proactive approach to meeting those men who have the same interest as you - meeting someone new for a possible long-term relationship? Chapter IX discusses the often-disparaged personal ad and how it can be effectively used to find someone new. The author discusses the pros and cons of personal ad use. X "Availability of Personal Ads" Chapter X discusses the array of personal ad opportunities that exist around the country in newspapers, weekly shoppers, and city and state magazines. It provides examples of city and state magazines around the country. It also explores the variety of dating and matchmaking services on the Internet and how these services can be used. XI" Internet Ads" Internet personal ads are offering a new dimension to finding someone new in the 21st Century. XII "Major Advantage of Internet Services" Screening profiles added to new Internet dating sites allow participants to learn more about a prospective mate than might have been possible after years of dating. XIII " Internet Services" There are literally dozens of Internet matchmaking services available in the United States and for many countries around the world. There are services for heterosexual couples and those seeking alternative lifestyles. There are sites for Christians, Jews, and Muslims. There are sites for the disabled. There are international sites, national sites, regional sites and local sites. This chapter discusses a variety of sites, what they charge, and what each offers the prospective client. XIV "Should I place an Ad or Just Answer them" There are two approaches to participating in personal ads - placing your own ad, or answering ads placed by men interested in meeting someone like you. The author discusses the advantages of both placing and responding to personal ads. XV "How do I write a Personal Ad" Once the decision has been made to participate in personal ads, the question comes as to how to write an effective ad. In this chapter we look at both publication and Internet personal ads and what should be included and left out. The author walks the reader through several and advises as to how the reader can obtain many examples to tailor their own ad. XVI "Responding to a Personal Ad and Lingering Concerns" Writing and placing a personal ad are only the first step in finding someone new in your life. When the responses come in or if you decide to respond to someone else's ad, the question is how do you handle a response or an ad contact. This chapter provides direction on personal ad response. XVII "Dating/Matchmaking Services" For those people who are reluctant, or do not have the time, to spend months looking for someone through the traditional sources, there are alternatives such as dating services, a blend of dating and matchmaking service, and lastly there is a service tailored on old world marriage brokering - the matchmaker. XVIII "Beware the Player" Most men seeking someone new in their lives are as you interested in a long-term relationship. There are those referred to as "players" who are merely interested in the short-term benefits of a relationship and then move on. We discuss the concept of "players" and what to watch out for. XVIX "Possible Protection" Your best protection in getting into an undesirable relationship is your own intuition. However there are steps that you can take to make sure your new love is who he say's he is. We explore several of these in this chapter. XX " Why Relationships Fail and Happiness" At this stage of your life you have been in relationships that failed for one reason or another. In this chapter we discuss some of the reasons. We also look at the concept of happiness and whether having someone new in your life will bring you the happiness you are seeking. XXI "What Are Your Prospects" If you do everything we are suggesting what are your prospects of finding the love of your dreams. In Chapter XXI we explore your chances of being successful and steps that you can take to improve your odds. For more information or relationship questions, contact the author at Marion@newloveafter50.com
©2005 Marion Eggleton